Tuesday 2 December 2014

Sexual Abuse


The moral decadence in values and morals has contributed to a large extent to some of the horrible happenings that have proliferated into our society and culture. I beseech all parents by the mercy of God to be vigilant where their wards are concerned. The daily pursue of gold and silver has made the priority of many parents shifted. May we not miss eternity with God over the failure to train and guide our children appropriately in life.

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More than 85% of children sexually abused are done by people close to them, those they have grown up to see and trust by the day.
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A lot of children learned and unlearned are facing lots of imaginable situation and some of these people are not bold enough to open up either because they have been threatened to die if they open up or because the parents might not believe them if they open or the fear that it might cause a split of families ties.

There are several cases of girls been sexually abused by neighbours, uncles, fathers, brothers and cousins, relatives, family friends and school mates.
There was a case of a girl brought from the village and the daddy of the house has been sleeping with her for almost a year – an eleven years old girl, at least twice or thrice in a month as a matter of fact the girls said she cannot count the number of times the man had slept with her.
We have several of this particular situation at hand. The proliferation of Social media and parents not paying attention to what their children do on the cyberspace is really disheartening. Everyone wants to belong by dangerously exposing the young ones to what they are not matured enough to handle.
When children fed their minds with pornography and unholy association the mind is worked up and before one realise it they want to practice what they have watched.
But what about the adults that daily abuse little girls of various age bracket.
Most parents especially mothers have completely forgotten the essential tools to bring up their children, they allow them to dress indecently without no moral values nor respect to elders or authority.
Some female practice lesbianism while the boys also go to the extreme of homosexuality.
Some parents that believe in throwing their wards to go for holidays have perpetually expose their wards to different evil.

Can we imagine a girl of 5 years that has been highly abused and her vagina is so deep and wide and had led to serious infection, because the girl was left at the mercy of neighbours who has plenty of boys and one after the other had had the little girl violated.
Some of these evil are even perpetrated by evil friends that do setup their female for their male friends to mess up.

Mothers need to be talked to, the destinies of our children is so important and must be salvaged.
There are lots of issues going on in homes too which are not creating a conducive environment for the children.
Fighting, cheating and abuse of all sorts from various angle. People conscience have been destroyed and no longer feel ashamed swimming in sin, rather it is seen as a norm.


The devil will not have a final say over these children they are the Future and may I also say that mothers’ needs to wake up lots are happening under their very nose with them being insensitive.

Thursday 13 November 2014

Quick Fact on EBOLA

Ebola crept in like a thief in the night and kept many awake to the reality of the importance of life.

Ebola is introduced into the human population through close contact with the blood, organs, secretions or other bodily fluids of infected animals such as chimpanzees, fruit bats, monkeys, gorillas, forest antelope and porcupines found ill or dead in the rain forest.

I am not going to reinvent the wheel here as many things have been said on what EBOLA stands for and huge impact of the infection on any human.

However, there are few things that perhaps many did not know which I believe the knowledge in the write up will certainly go a long way. -  Let me start on this noteWho is at risk, and how can we prevent its spread?

·        Anyone who cares for an infected person or handles their blood or fluid samples is at risk of becoming infected. Hospital workers, laboratory workers, innocent victims, friends, associates and family members are at greatest risk. 

And another school of thought said “Strict infection control procedures and wearing protective clothing minimizes this risk” Is that enough to combat the deadly EBOLA?

Somehow it is believed that the likelihood of catching Ebola virus disease is considered very low unless you've traveled to a known infected area and had direct contact with a person with Ebola-like symptoms, or had contact with an infected animal or contaminated objects.

There is a popular saying "The only thing we have to fear is fear

The fear of Ebola by many has imprisoned many people that are not even infected by Ebola. Messages of fear are being preached and propagated using different means. I will not be surprised if some certain fellow due to fear of Ebola are already plague with symptoms of Ebola disease. 

Fear has torments, it paralyses the victims. Several information has been passed on in a spirit of panic and fear, rather than in a clear and concise manner that addresses people’s questions which in turn had fueled anxiety from both young and old.  When we react out of fear, our actions are often irrational and even costly.

As believers fear is our greatest enemy in walking in the Faith and must be confronted.
I am not saying the deadly disease is not real or does not exist. All I am saying every believer should understand they carry within them a spiritual DNA which is immune to any satanic attacks from the pit of hell.

Think NO evil and see NO evil, do not give in to the fear of being attack by EBOLA.
And he said unto them, Why are ye so fearful? How is it that ye have no faith? Mark 4:40

Fear gives room to the devil to manifest, as long as you will not think yourself having or being affected with EBOLA you cannot be afflicted with it.

As a man thinketh in his heart so is he – Think good health and that will be your experience in Jesus name.


Prayer: We pray for those affected or threatened by the deadly virus that they may be granted divine healing and hope of new beginning. 


Thursday 6 November 2014

Basic Fundamental Tools - WORDS

Let’s look at some of the basic fundamental tools used in the first School of Learning

Words

Word is the first and the most powerful tool in bringing up a child - as good as the word it is a double edged weapon - it can mould the destiny of a child or destroy the life of a child.

What kind of words do you speak to your children or wards? Words of hope or despair, possibility or impossibility, gratitude or ingratitude, complaints or praises, condemnation or commendation, blessings or curses.

Children naturally exhibit most of the characters they learn from home.  A way of instilling these virtues is by living an exemplary life. What virtue are your children learning from you?

Home is fundamental to the development of any Child, it is therefore expedient of us create time to ensure the basic values are instilled in the lives of our children before they pick wrong values that may end up destroying their lives.

Sometimes we wonder how come some children have low self-esteem - it all starts from home. 
The right words with inbuilt ability and treasures were never said by the people they believed so much in – their parents.

Many words are said without saying these right words.  What words do the children pick along the line as they growing up?

In conclusion, parents, guardians and adults cannot give what they do not have and cannot teach what they do not understand.
Living an exemplary life for our children will go a long way in instilling Godly values and virtues into their lives.

Remember the home is the first school of learning for our children.

Wednesday 29 October 2014

Discipline - Greatest School of Learning in the life of a Child Series


Discipline
-         is systematic instruction intended to train a person
 (Cited: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Discipline)

Discipline is another virtue that is lacking in the life of many children, some parents usually express that they don’t want their children to lack anything and because of that indulge their wards in act of excesses and fail to discipline them when necessary.

Good enough the bible clearly instructs us on how we can use the weapon of the Word of God to effectively train our children so that they will not grow to become a concern.

The bible admonishes us to train our children in the way of the Lord and when they grow up they will not depart from it.

Any child that is out of order is usually into different vices that cannot be imagined.
The act of discipline is very important because no one can amount to anything in life without the virtues of discipline.

To be contd…..

Saturday 25 October 2014

Friday 24 October 2014

Greatest School of Learning in the life of a Child


From the time of inception when the foetus is conceived in the womb, a child has somehow been enrolled into a school called a home, irrespective of the structure, context and atmosphere the foetus is growing in.

The first school a child learns from is the home and that is why the first utterance or word spoken by the child is automatically picked from the environment he or she is born into.

How do we now make this school of learning worthwhile for our wards? What kind of virtues, morals and teaching do we ensure our children possess from the home to help them become the person they are created and destined to be.

Many children by reasons of the home they were born into grow with the concept of worthlessness, no sense of value and regard for anything or anyone. This is sometime a reflection of the first school of learning they attended which is the home.

It is a common understanding that in all schools of learning, the students are instructed on what to do or not the other way round. When a child is left to have his or her way at all times in the home, then the original concept of home being a school of learning is defeated.

When a child is not taught some basic virtues and values at home it creates huge gap in the society. For this purpose, we shall be discussing three values which our children are meant to learn from home, their first School of Learning.

Waste:

Online dictionary defined Waste as use or expend carelessly, extravagantly, or to no purpose, barren, unproductive etc.
 (Cited: www.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/english/waste)
When we talk of waste, there are basic things children need to know:

This could be as simple as letting our children know that resources like food, time, and everything that matters to existence including their own lives should not be wasted by all means but put to maximum usage.

Cited: http://www.epa.gov/wastes/conserve/foodwaste/fd-reduce.htm

I know of a family that seriously frown at wasting food and I agreed with that concept too, I do not take it likely with anyone in my home that wastes food or anything of value.

One of the ways in ensuring that nothing is wasted is knowing what to do with what God gives per time so that we don’t squander it before it is needed.




It is our responsibility as parents to ensure that there is no waste by showing examples to the children.











Simple steps to avoid waste




To be contd…..


Wednesday 22 October 2014

What can your Child say about you…. in a flash

Is your life a role model to your Children and how are you affecting them positively……



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Celebrating my Jewel as God adds another year to her today……. my LOVE

I posed these 3 unexpected questions to one of my daughters when she was not up to 10 years of age, she gave me her responses. These I wrote down unknowingly to her.
 Please read and laugh with me….

1.       What I like about my School

       General Hygiene
       Creativity
       Spirituality
       Moral Discipline
       Well Groomed Teachers
       Excellence

2.      What I like about my Mummy

       Personal Hygiene
       The way she carries herself
       Very Disciplined
       Zero tolerance for failure
       Spiritual Anchor
       She dignifies herself
       She is caring about people around
       The way she takes care of the family

3.      What I like about my Daddy

       Spiritual Discipline
       Honesty
       Caring
       His Love for God
       His Love for my Mummy
       His Love for his daughters


Friday 17 October 2014

What is the value of the life of a CHILD?

What amount of value can you place over the life of a child? To what extent will a parent go to protect his/her children?

In the context of this, what will be considered to be the norm when raising a Child?
Considering the different phases in the life of a child, what are the roles of parents and guardian?
What are the real need of Children?

Children are faced with diverse challenges that are often times not shared with parents or people as there is no one they can trust.  
What practical steps can be taken to ensure open communications with our children?

What are the tools used in bringing up a child?
How do we address the challenges in homes which affect the destiny of children?

In view of the above questions, this blog is mainly dedicated to saving the life of children. This Vision is for individual to target a Child and ensure the destiny of that child is safe and secured using appropriate tools to mould the child.

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